What does it take to be a mender?

Being a Mender means you choose repair over retreat.
It means you don’t pretend the cracks aren’t there, you honor them, because you know that’s where the light gets in.

A Mender understands that life will bruise you. People will disappoint you. Seasons will break you open.
But instead of hardening, you soften with intention.
You learn. You reflect. You heal, and then you help others do the same.

Being a Mender means you speak gently to people who are fighting wars you can’t see.
You listen without trying to fix.
You hold space without needing credit.
You offer truth wrapped in compassion, not judgment.

A Mender knows that healing is not linear.
Some days you are the one stitching yourself back together.
Other days, you are the steady hands reminding someone else that they’re not beyond repair.

To be a Mender is to believe that love is a verb.
That kindness costs nothing.
That presence is powerful.
That empathy can change the temperature of a room, and sometimes the direction of a life.

A Mender does not confuse boundaries with bitterness.
You protect your peace, but you don’t close your heart.
You forgive without forgetting who you became in the process.

Most of all, a Mender understands this truth:
You don’t need to be healed to help.
You don’t need to be perfect to matter.
You don’t need to be whole to be worthy.

You mend with your words.
You mend with your silence.
You mend simply by staying, by choosing love again and again in a world that gives you every reason not to.

That’s what it means to be a Mender.
And if this resonates with you…
it’s because you already are one.

We are reflections of each other, if you see beauty in someone else, it is because they magnify the beauty in you. We never know what anyone is going through in their lives, and it cost absolutely nothing to love someone, to be kind and make someone smile. Go out there and be beautiful. 

Every night we make a promise to ourselves, and to each other. We leave all negative occurrences in today, we do not bring them into tomorrow. We promise that we start tomorrow, The First day of the rest of your life, with the mindset that it is a clean slate, a brand new start, asking ourselves, what seeds can we plant today, to make tomorrow, a better day than it was yesterday? What can I do today, to make myself a better version than I was yesterday? and no matter what we set out do we take 10 mins to do something that makes ourselves happy. Pinky's up menders. Lets go heal the world, one smile and one word at a time. 

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